God created us for community. It is evident all throughout Scripture
starting from the very beginning when God said that it was not good for man to
be alone. But why is community so
important? And why, at least at times,
is it so hard?
Community, good, godly, Christian community draws us closer
to God. There is something deep inside
of us, that reflects and reciprocates holiness and edification when we gather
together as the body of Christ. We can
be mutually encouraged by each other’s faith. When we see our own faith lived out in someone
else’s life with the nuances of another instead of just ourselves, it broadens
our understanding of our own faith and helps us get a better glimpse of how big
our God is. In and of ourselves we can
only know so much about God, but with the help of other believers, we get a
bigger picture of God than what we would otherwise be able to see on our own. God has distributed bits and pieces of His
glory in each of our lives; none of us have the whole picture of who He is, yet
each of us reflect a bit of Him. And
when we come together, those reflections form a mosaic that starts taking
shape. Will we ever get a complete
picture of God this side of eternity? No. However, we get one step closer to that
picture when we spend time with other people who are indwelt by the Holy
Spirit.
Why then is community so often so difficult to achieve? If it is so good for us, and so necessary for
understanding God more fully, why is it such a challenge? First of all, I would argue that the fact
that it is instrumental in our spiritual growth is probably the number one
reason that it is difficult: Satan does not want it to happen. The devil knows that if he can separate us
from other believers, then his lies can speak more loudly and the truth is
harder for us to discern. So it is advantageous
for him to keep us away from community.
But secondly, community, especially as an adult, requires intentional
effort. Growing up, we were surrounded
by people that we lived life together with.
In school we were with the same group of people every day. At church and youth group we would see the
same people week in and week out. For my
college years, I lived on campus at a Christian university which intensified
this community even more. Those that I
saw at school were those that I also saw at church and those that I lived
with. Community was not something that I
chose so much as it was a reality in which I was forced to live; it happened naturally,
without much effort. But then graduation
happened.
Without dorm life and chapel and class and other daily
community-driven events, there was a severe drop in community in my life. Everyone’s schedules were different, each
with different jobs, responsibilities, and commitments. Spending time with people had to be scheduled
or it just didn’t happen. I had to be
intentional to pursue time with others and that time often involved a specific
event rather than just hanging out or living life together. Not only that, but often even when we
scheduled time to hang out, other things would come up and get in the way, or
life would just be tiring and people would cancel. Gone were the days of simply saying hi on the
way to class or catching up about our days over lunch. Now, getting coffee was spent chatting about
work or what life event had changed since we last saw each other. The brief discussions of what God did in the
last five minutes evaporated and became the much more canned “How has your time
with God been?” if that question even came up.
Suddenly, community became very difficult.
Which brings me to today. I have recently realized how much I NEED community. This challenge to community that adulthood has brought has hindered a lot of my relationships. Commitments, a lack of time, and distance have made living life together incredibly difficult and therefore often too hard to actually make happen. However, I find that whenever I do get to spend time with believers who are in the same stage of their journey with God as me, I find it to be so incredible and uplifting! Fellowship with other believers draws my spirit to God in ways that I can NEVER achieve on my own; believe me, I’ve tried. There is just something about conversations about God and all that He has done that knit my heart to God in ways that talking to Him just doesn’t do. I am not saying that we should only talk about God and not to Him, heaven’s no! But just that if we only talk to God and do not talk to others about Him, then our faith becomes flat, 2-dimentional if you will. It loses a depth that comes only through community. God created us to get to know Him more fully through community. I don’t fully understand why He did it that way, but I know that in order to get to know God better, I need that community.
Which brings me to today. I have recently realized how much I NEED community. This challenge to community that adulthood has brought has hindered a lot of my relationships. Commitments, a lack of time, and distance have made living life together incredibly difficult and therefore often too hard to actually make happen. However, I find that whenever I do get to spend time with believers who are in the same stage of their journey with God as me, I find it to be so incredible and uplifting! Fellowship with other believers draws my spirit to God in ways that I can NEVER achieve on my own; believe me, I’ve tried. There is just something about conversations about God and all that He has done that knit my heart to God in ways that talking to Him just doesn’t do. I am not saying that we should only talk about God and not to Him, heaven’s no! But just that if we only talk to God and do not talk to others about Him, then our faith becomes flat, 2-dimentional if you will. It loses a depth that comes only through community. God created us to get to know Him more fully through community. I don’t fully understand why He did it that way, but I know that in order to get to know God better, I need that community.
Community as an adult is hard. It takes a lot of effort and intentionality
that many days I do not have the energy to put forth. However, it is necessary! I don’t have an easy solution for how to
develop quality community, but only the realization that it is worth the effort.